Have you ever felt that sometimes the harder we try, the higher we rise, or the more successful we are, the more people WANT us to fail? Or perhaps I should be asking if we, too, feel that wee gleam of joy when we see other people failing?
The german word is Schadenfreude, which means, happiness on the misfortune of others. The more I grow up, the more I realise that Schadenfreude is a part of almost all human beans. Some of us are honest enough to admit it, some aren’t. But the worst part is that, more often than not, people subconsciously do & say things to hurt others based purely on Schadenfreude! The joy of reprimanding others, making others look bad, bringing others down, CAN temporarily make us feel better (read: make us feel less of a failure). But does it change who we are, or what we have achieved in life? NOT AT ALL!
To think about it, we seek happiness in our life, do we not?! If we can learn to be happy when others are happy, doesn’t it already double our happiness in our lifetime? Learn to control that Schadenfreude seeds in our heads and we shall be happier!
Nearly as important as that is to learn to recognise when others are saying things to you or doing things (based on Schadenfreude) only to drag you down, to avert you from success, to prevent you from spreading your wings & becoming these stars in the sky who shine! You have to know when to close your ears & eyes, and just believe in your heart!
When you think good, mean good, do good, and keep your heart pure, there’s nothing you can’t achieve!
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Hi Iv,
Tengkiu ya Iv:) aku dapat banyak berkat ni dari blog mu:)
Bener Iv, ketika qta tulus & bahagia terhadap kebahagiaan org lain, qta akan makin bahagia & di berkati:)
Seperti kata pepatah, qta mesti tau kapan qta mesti jadi katak yg tuli biar bisa sampe ke menara eiffel:)
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Hi Ivana,
Just my thoughts:
As long as what we say (our words), what we think (our thoughts) and what we do (our action) do not hurt other people, then we just keep going no matter other people think. They maybe jealous. However, we should be aware of what’s going on around us. On the other hand, if other people happy or success, we should be happy or admit it, so we can improve ourselves or learn from other people to gain a real success/ happiness in a right way.
To control Schadenfreude is hard, need a strong willingness and self-reflection/ introspection.
Sorry if take up the space and your time…
Thank you for your writing.
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To Ivana:
I never heard of katak tuli & Eiffel tower before. That’s a very cute combination!
To Herry:
Not at all, thank you for sharing your thoughts. Feel free to leave as many comments as your heart desires
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Hi Ivana,
If I don’t get it wrong……………….
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU! May GOD bless every movement in your life.
Sorry out of topic, as I don’t have your email to send you this message.
Cheers.